I have several suggestions. You bring up a great point about women seeking dive buddies. There is more than just is he a good dive buddy. I`m an ex-cop and Marine Embassy Guard and have worked private security so personal safety is aa lot subject I know well. In fact I`m writing a book on the subject tentatively titled "No More Victims" I suggest when you dive with a new buddy, try to add them to a dive with someone you know. Another option is to dive with them off a boat where you drive there seperatly. If it`s a shore dive meet at the beach and dive from a busy beach. Avoid being alone with someone you don`t know. Dive clubs and organized dives are so great. Go with a group, meet lots of new dive buddies. Performance AS A BUDDY, its important to communicate. Often people are afraid to take charge so they are waiting for you to suggest a gear check or plan the dive. I like to talk about the dive after as well. This is your chance to discuss how you both can be better next time.