Privacy concerns are important to me so I love hearing these comments/suggestions. I am going to create a way to auto-approve or manually approve buddy requests...maybe even today if I have time. Regarding not showing the profile until you are granted access, unless I get more demand for that one, I`m going to keep it like it is for now. You can set your profile to private, which means only limited information is shown to non-members, but your whole profile is viewable by members to the site that are logged into the member`s area.
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