Shannon,
Anytime you need a dive buddy for Dutch Springs you can go with us, if you don’t mind hanging with a couple of old guys. We have annual memberships and dive often. Dutch also has a dive buddy finder, The Tuna Seizure run by Northeast Scuba Supply is a great boat for Jersey diving. We also dive with another friend who has his own boat set up for diving, three divers down three divers up watching the boat. If you haven’t yet, Jersey diving is not for the faint of heart.
Neither of our wives dive so I understand about a non-diving significant other. We take the wives each year to Sandals resorts, they love the beach and the resorts and we get to dive half a day. Also the wives take in some snorkeling. Maybe you can take him along in baby-steps. BTW Sandals is a great way for a new diver to rack up some dives in a well run operation.